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Oh yes…This was quite common with me the first few weeks I quit. The littlest thing would set it off, just a thought or a song I would hear….From what I hear from the group, this is quite normal. It can be embarrassing though when you are out in public. I spent alot of time just sitting in my car trying to pull myself together before I could get out to walk to where I was headed. Eileen Eight months, three weeks, one day, 10 hours, 4 minutes and 55 seconds. 7962 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,353.43. Life saved: 3 weeks, 6 days, 15 hours, 30 minutes. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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> thank you kathleen……. > almost sounds like we are experiencing some of the same things now…..
Yes it does. To hear you are going through this almost makes me feel better in a sick kinda way. :-o I guess I haven’t *noticed* people here that sound like they have gone through the emotional ups and downs I have. > i don’t mind crying when i am home and alone…… i do not care for it when > it is when other people are around…..(guess i am a private person)
I don’t like it either, but I don’t think many people have noticed (except *maybe* in the car). If it is obvious they know I will tell them "I quit smoking". When this happens – the crying stuff – I just put one foot in front of the other and do whatever it is that is absolutely necessary for me to do. > the anger is subsiding…… and in it’s place are tears……. > butts in and says: "i do believe.. i do believe….. i do …… i do
What a beautiful explanation mari! I have noticed that PMS time is the WORST. With hope and heart, Kathleen, who never believed in PMS before – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> marianne > ps ….. feel free to email me direct……. if you want a crying
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
Lord, Lord Yes! The first few months I would cry at the drop of a hat! I had to avoid any and all sad books and movies. Once I got started crying I just couldn’t seem to control my tears. They just ran away with me! I cried at stupid television commercials! I cried over all sorts of ‘touching’ scenes, music, stories, anything! Stupid stuff! I couldn’t hardly talk about a lot of things or I would just fall into a puddle of my own tears. So, it is normal. And not very fun. Hang in there. Like everything else about quitting, this gets better, too. — BinnieBee – Proudly quit for over 10 months now! 
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Oh! When I am in that kind of mood, I watch the teary movies on purpose ~ at least then you have an excuse. My kids and Steve are used to it. You know, "mine" are: The Joy Luck Club Steel Magnolias Beaches Horse Whisperer the kids: Iron Will That’s all I can think of for now. Full Metal Jacket for laughs ~ because I copy/recite the words right along them. "Right shoulderrrrrrrrrrrr HUH" "Me so hooorney, me love you long time" and "This is my rifle. There are many like it but this one is mine." With hope and heart, Kathleen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes. > Lord, Lord Yes! The first few months I would cry at the drop of a hat! > I had to avoid any and all sad books and movies. Once I got started > crying I just couldn’t seem to control my tears. They just ran away > with me! I cried at stupid television commercials! I cried over all > sorts of ‘touching’ scenes, music, stories, anything! Stupid stuff! I > couldn’t hardly talk about a lot of things or I would just fall into a > puddle of my own tears. > So, it is normal. And not very fun. Hang in there. Like everything > else about quitting, this gets better, too. > — > BinnieBee – Proudly quit for over 10 months now! > %% > (—-) > ( >__< ) > ^^ ~~ ^^ > ~f3as3~
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Oh! When I am in that kind of mood, I watch the teary movies on purpose ~ at > least then you have an excuse. My kids and Steve are used to it. > You know, "mine" are: > The Joy Luck Club > Steel Magnolias > Beaches > Horse Whisperer > the kids: > Iron Will > That’s all I can think of for now. > Full Metal Jacket for laughs ~ because I copy/recite the words right along them. > "Right shoulderrrrrrrrrrrr HUH" > "Me so hooorney, me love you long time" > and "This is my rifle. There are many like it but this one is mine." > With hope and heart, > Kathleen
Here are two more blubber-fest movies for you, kathleen: Truly, Madly, Deeply Shadowland …pat. — Pat and Ash http://www3.sympatico.ca/patash/ Ash’s ICQ: 152392429 Pat’s ICQ: 153842682
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i was so happy to recieve the responses from the group. Thank you …. it is nice to know that we are not alone……in what we are experiencing. I will most likely be in chat later tonight……. so we can all cry has the saran wrap???? i shall never smoke another cigarette marianne "i do believe I will never smoke another cigarette……. i do believe…..
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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yep, lets have the tears rolling form our checks. But tears which are cause from laughing. :) And crying together is so much easier at least we know we are not alone. Carmen
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> i was so happy to recieve the responses from the group. Thank you …. it > is nice to know that we are not alone……in what we are experiencing. > I will most likely be in chat later tonight……. so we can all cry > has the saran wrap???? > i shall never smoke another cigarette > marianne > "i do believe I will never smoke another cigarette……. i do believe….. literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down life…… > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Interesting—-not a single guy stepped up to the plate. Oh, that’s right, I forgot, real men don’t cry. What was I thinking? Truthfully—I have not felt like crying, perhaps a few hours of desperation. I have had a temperament though, and I have found myself talking more than usual. I think I used to hide behind the ciggy, now it looks like i’m ready to stand up by myself. Personality growth—-hmmm, can they stand it? Marianne, you know you can always cry on my shoulder. Lance 27 days, 104 dollars
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>but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down
will now begin to deal with then > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the feelings behind a smoke. I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl lets smoke and not cry. Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn to cry and accept it as being normal. Carmen quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke,
the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up " a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! rosie
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Hi Rosie
ever : > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, : : the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up " : a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! : rosie : After 18 months I still find that I cry more easily than when I was a smoker. However it feels like a much healthier response and one I can live with! Liz
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crying is also good for the production of brain chemicals! (endorphins) — read and post daily! rosie Nothing is left to you at this moment but to have a good laugh!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi Rosie when > ever > : > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, > : > : the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up > " > : a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! > : rosie > : > After 18 months I still find that I cry more easily than when I was a > smoker. However it feels like a much healthier response and one I can live > with! > Liz
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Oh, yeah… I had them. Major. I also had moments when I wanted to take all the freaking china in my house and smash it up against a wall, piece by piece. It got better. It gets better. There were times during which the strength and depth of my emotions surprised the hell out of me, and I didn’t think I’d ever learn how to react "normally" to things again. But I did. I had to get used to feeling things… and I got used to that… and then gradually my reactions fell back into line with something resembling regular life, except that I had learned to allow myself to feel instead of running away. Well, I’m still learning… but I’ve made progress. Hang in there, and go ahead and let the tears flow. It will all be worth it. Hugs, elle
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes, Carmen, smoking does mask alot. I find I cry easier now also. But it is a healthy cry. Was the movie you were watching called, "I Am Sam?" You said ‘My Name is Sam"..Wonder if that is the same one. If it is, yes….It was a real tearjerker! Eileen Eight months, three weeks, two days, 12 hours, 46 minutes and 35 seconds. 7995 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,359.10. Life saved: 3 weeks, 6 days, 18 hours, 15 minutes. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then > > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But > It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the > feelings behind a smoke. > I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I > felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I > used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry. > Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I > have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, > it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and > don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn > to cry and accept it as being normal. > Carmen > quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy. > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes, this is so familiar. This might sound kind of funny now, but there was a time not too long ago when going to the hardware store was actually a big crying trigger for me… it reminded me of all the little projects my Dad used to think he was going to do, but never got around to… and the tools that he once had and never used, which my mom ended up giving away to a neighbor who had helped her after dad became sick with Alzheimer’s disease… and then that memory would remind me of having to clean out my parents house alone after my mom died… and so on… the flood of memories starts and next thing you know, you’re crying over ten different hurtful memories at once… You’ll find yourself confronting things like this, and it’s hard but it is okay. You may think you are never going to get through it, but you will. Hugs, elle
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then > > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But > It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the > feelings behind a smoke. > I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I > felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I > used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry. > Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I > have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, > it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and > don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn > to cry and accept it as being normal. > Carmen > quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy. literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down life…… > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face……
I must have cried most of this past weekend. >i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness)
Nor do I, thank the Goddess or God 
) >but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down Yes….. >will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago……
Yes, that’s part of what’s happening. You aren’t alone ) Cheryl Faith xxx 1M, 1W, 5D,20h – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->marianne >will remain smokefree >One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes >not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>Yes it does. To hear you are going through this almost makes me feel better in >a sick kinda way. :-o I guess I haven’t *noticed* people here that sound like >they have gone through the emotional ups and downs I have.
I’m so grateful people share…… >When this happens – the crying stuff – I just put one foot in front >of the other and do whatever it is that is absolutely necessary for me to do.
Thanks, Kathleen, I always need this reminder….. >I have noticed that PMS time is the WORST.
There’s a small % of women who have murdered or commit suicide during this time. I fall into the % that just has suicidal thoughts but doesn’t mean them. >With hope and heart, >Kathleen, who never believed in PMS before
Believe it,Lady Kathleen. ) I have a weekend emotional hangover and so much guilt for so much crying when all this man wants to do is make me happy. But this too shall pass. xxxxCheryl Faith, meowing and not smoking
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> it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry.
It’s so true how we do that. Cigarettes as punctuation for life. I’m beginning to see it’s much better to live life and feel it, too. Kim
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for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… marianne will remain smokefree One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes Mari. :-( I’m sorry. I do it pretty periodically these days. Some times I know why and some days I don’t… more often than not I know why. We have to work out ways to deal with the stress… and until we do those feelings are going to get out one way or another. I cried for 2 hours straight the other day while I was working. (I clean houses so I was alone) It was pretty strange. Take care of yourself. Little things…. smelly candles, bubble bath… whatever it is for you, DO IT! Cold sodas. Chocolate. And know that this too shall pass. And take some aspirin for the emotional hangover. (((MARI))) With hope and heart, Kathleen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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thank you kathleen……. almost sounds like we are experiencing some of the same things now….. i don’t mind crying when i am home and alone…… i do not care for it when it is when other people are around…..(guess i am a private person) the anger is subsiding…… and in it’s place are tears……. butts in and says: "i do believe.. i do believe….. i do …… i do marianne ps ….. feel free to email me direct……. if you want a crying
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Yes Mari. :-( I’m sorry. I do it pretty periodically these days. Some times > I know why and some days I don’t… more often than not I know why. We have to > work out ways to deal with the stress… and until we do those feelings are > going to get out one way or another. I cried for 2 hours straight the other day > while I was working. (I clean houses so I was alone) It was pretty strange. > Take care of yourself. Little things…. smelly candles, bubble bath… > whatever it is for you, DO IT! Cold sodas. Chocolate. And know that this too > shall pass. And take some aspirin for the emotional hangover. > (((MARI))) > With hope and heart, > Kathleen literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down life…… i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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YES, i did alot of crying! those cigarettes i smoked had over 2000 chemicals in them, and we are only JUST BEGINNING to understand the effect, other than addiction, that they had on the brain. — read and post daily! rosie Nothing is left to you at this moment but to have a good laugh!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… marianne will remain smokefree One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes Mari. :-( I’m sorry. I do it pretty periodically these days. Some times I know why and some days I don’t… more often than not I know why. We have to work out ways to deal with the stress… and until we do those feelings are going to get out one way or another. I cried for 2 hours straight the other day while I was working. (I clean houses so I was alone) It was pretty strange. Take care of yourself. Little things…. smelly candles, bubble bath… whatever it is for you, DO IT! Cold sodas. Chocolate. And know that this too shall pass. And take some aspirin for the emotional hangover. (((MARI))) With hope and heart, Kathleen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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thank you kathleen……. almost sounds like we are experiencing some of the same things now….. i don’t mind crying when i am home and alone…… i do not care for it when it is when other people are around…..(guess i am a private person) the anger is subsiding…… and in it’s place are tears……. butts in and says: "i do believe.. i do believe….. i do …… i do marianne ps ….. feel free to email me direct……. if you want a crying
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Yes Mari. :-( I’m sorry. I do it pretty periodically these days. Some times > I know why and some days I don’t… more often than not I know why. We have to > work out ways to deal with the stress… and until we do those feelings are > going to get out one way or another. I cried for 2 hours straight the other day > while I was working. (I clean houses so I was alone) It was pretty strange. > Take care of yourself. Little things…. smelly candles, bubble bath… > whatever it is for you, DO IT! Cold sodas. Chocolate. And know that this too > shall pass. And take some aspirin for the emotional hangover. > (((MARI))) > With hope and heart, > Kathleen literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down life…… i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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YES, i did alot of crying! those cigarettes i smoked had over 2000 chemicals in them, and we are only JUST BEGINNING to understand the effect, other than addiction, that they had on the brain. — read and post daily! rosie Nothing is left to you at this moment but to have a good laugh!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Oh yes…This was quite common with me the first few weeks I quit. The littlest thing would set it off, just a thought or a song I would hear….From what I hear from the group, this is quite normal. It can be embarrassing though when you are out in public. I spent alot of time just sitting in my car trying to pull myself together before I could get out to walk to where I was headed. Eileen Eight months, three weeks, one day, 10 hours, 4 minutes and 55 seconds. 7962 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,353.43. Life saved: 3 weeks, 6 days, 15 hours, 30 minutes. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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> thank you kathleen……. > almost sounds like we are experiencing some of the same things now…..
Yes it does. To hear you are going through this almost makes me feel better in a sick kinda way. :-o I guess I haven’t *noticed* people here that sound like they have gone through the emotional ups and downs I have. > i don’t mind crying when i am home and alone…… i do not care for it when > it is when other people are around…..(guess i am a private person)
I don’t like it either, but I don’t think many people have noticed (except *maybe* in the car). If it is obvious they know I will tell them "I quit smoking". When this happens – the crying stuff – I just put one foot in front of the other and do whatever it is that is absolutely necessary for me to do. > the anger is subsiding…… and in it’s place are tears……. > butts in and says: "i do believe.. i do believe….. i do …… i do
What a beautiful explanation mari! I have noticed that PMS time is the WORST. With hope and heart, Kathleen, who never believed in PMS before – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> marianne > ps ….. feel free to email me direct……. if you want a crying
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
Lord, Lord Yes! The first few months I would cry at the drop of a hat! I had to avoid any and all sad books and movies. Once I got started crying I just couldn’t seem to control my tears. They just ran away with me! I cried at stupid television commercials! I cried over all sorts of ‘touching’ scenes, music, stories, anything! Stupid stuff! I couldn’t hardly talk about a lot of things or I would just fall into a puddle of my own tears. So, it is normal. And not very fun. Hang in there. Like everything else about quitting, this gets better, too. — BinnieBee – Proudly quit for over 10 months now! %% (—-) ( >__< ) ^^ ~~ ^^ ~f3as3~
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Oh! When I am in that kind of mood, I watch the teary movies on purpose ~ at least then you have an excuse. My kids and Steve are used to it. You know, "mine" are: The Joy Luck Club Steel Magnolias Beaches Horse Whisperer the kids: Iron Will That’s all I can think of for now. Full Metal Jacket for laughs ~ because I copy/recite the words right along them. "Right shoulderrrrrrrrrrrr HUH" "Me so hooorney, me love you long time" and "This is my rifle. There are many like it but this one is mine." With hope and heart, Kathleen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes. > Lord, Lord Yes! The first few months I would cry at the drop of a hat! > I had to avoid any and all sad books and movies. Once I got started > crying I just couldn’t seem to control my tears. They just ran away > with me! I cried at stupid television commercials! I cried over all > sorts of ‘touching’ scenes, music, stories, anything! Stupid stuff! I > couldn’t hardly talk about a lot of things or I would just fall into a > puddle of my own tears. > So, it is normal. And not very fun. Hang in there. Like everything > else about quitting, this gets better, too. > — > BinnieBee – Proudly quit for over 10 months now! > %% > (—-) > ( >__< ) > ^^ ~~ ^^ > ~f3as3~
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Oh! When I am in that kind of mood, I watch the teary movies on purpose ~ at > least then you have an excuse. My kids and Steve are used to it. > You know, "mine" are: > The Joy Luck Club > Steel Magnolias > Beaches > Horse Whisperer > the kids: > Iron Will > That’s all I can think of for now. > Full Metal Jacket for laughs ~ because I copy/recite the words right along them. > "Right shoulderrrrrrrrrrrr HUH" > "Me so hooorney, me love you long time" > and "This is my rifle. There are many like it but this one is mine." > With hope and heart, > Kathleen
Here are two more blubber-fest movies for you, kathleen: Truly, Madly, Deeply Shadowland …pat. — Pat and Ash http://www3.sympatico.ca/patash/ Ash’s ICQ: 152392429 Pat’s ICQ: 153842682
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i was so happy to recieve the responses from the group. Thank you …. it is nice to know that we are not alone……in what we are experiencing. I will most likely be in chat later tonight……. so we can all cry has the saran wrap???? i shall never smoke another cigarette marianne "i do believe I will never smoke another cigarette……. i do believe…..
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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yep, lets have the tears rolling form our checks. But tears which are cause from laughing. :) And crying together is so much easier at least we know we are not alone. Carmen
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> i was so happy to recieve the responses from the group. Thank you …. it > is nice to know that we are not alone……in what we are experiencing. > I will most likely be in chat later tonight……. so we can all cry > has the saran wrap???? > i shall never smoke another cigarette > marianne > "i do believe I will never smoke another cigarette……. i do believe….. literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down life…… > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Interesting—-not a single guy stepped up to the plate. Oh, that’s right, I forgot, real men don’t cry. What was I thinking? Truthfully—I have not felt like crying, perhaps a few hours of desperation. I have had a temperament though, and I have found myself talking more than usual. I think I used to hide behind the ciggy, now it looks like i’m ready to stand up by myself. Personality growth—-hmmm, can they stand it? Marianne, you know you can always cry on my shoulder. Lance 27 days, 104 dollars
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>but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down
will now begin to deal with then > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the feelings behind a smoke. I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl lets smoke and not cry. Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn to cry and accept it as being normal. Carmen quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke,
the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up " a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! rosie
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Hi Rosie
ever : > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, : : the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up " : a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! : rosie : After 18 months I still find that I cry more easily than when I was a smoker. However it feels like a much healthier response and one I can live with! Liz
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crying is also good for the production of brain chemicals! (endorphins) — read and post daily! rosie Nothing is left to you at this moment but to have a good laugh!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi Rosie when > ever > : > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, > : > : the drugs found in cigarettes REALLY DO effect the brain, and "lighting up > " > : a cigarette to stop yourself from crying, has a true chemical basis! > : rosie > : > After 18 months I still find that I cry more easily than when I was a > smoker. However it feels like a much healthier response and one I can live > with! > Liz
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Oh, yeah… I had them. Major. I also had moments when I wanted to take all the freaking china in my house and smash it up against a wall, piece by piece. It got better. It gets better. There were times during which the strength and depth of my emotions surprised the hell out of me, and I didn’t think I’d ever learn how to react "normally" to things again. But I did. I had to get used to feeling things… and I got used to that… and then gradually my reactions fell back into line with something resembling regular life, except that I had learned to allow myself to feel instead of running away. Well, I’m still learning… but I’ve made progress. Hang in there, and go ahead and let the tears flow. It will all be worth it. Hugs, elle
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes, Carmen, smoking does mask alot. I find I cry easier now also. But it is a healthy cry. Was the movie you were watching called, "I Am Sam?" You said ‘My Name is Sam"..Wonder if that is the same one. If it is, yes….It was a real tearjerker! Eileen Eight months, three weeks, two days, 12 hours, 46 minutes and 35 seconds. 7995 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,359.10. Life saved: 3 weeks, 6 days, 18 hours, 15 minutes. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down > will now begin to deal with then > > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But > It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the > feelings behind a smoke. > I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I > felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I > used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry. > Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I > have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, > it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and > don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn > to cry and accept it as being normal. > Carmen > quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy. > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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Yes, this is so familiar. This might sound kind of funny now, but there was a time not too long ago when going to the hardware store was actually a big crying trigger for me… it reminded me of all the little projects my Dad used to think he was going to do, but never got around to… and the tools that he once had and never used, which my mom ended up giving away to a neighbor who had helped her after dad became sick with Alzheimer’s disease… and then that memory would remind me of having to clean out my parents house alone after my mom died… and so on… the flood of memories starts and next thing you know, you’re crying over ten different hurtful memories at once… You’ll find yourself confronting things like this, and it’s hard but it is okay. You may think you are never going to get through it, but you will. Hugs, elle
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down i > will now begin to deal with then > > Since I quitt I noticed I am much closer to the water than ever before. But > It’s not the desire of having a smoke I think it is that I hidde the > feelings behind a smoke. > I was watching this morning the movie "My name is Sam" and all over sudden I > felt tears running down. And it was the first tim that I realized what I > used to do when it came to crying. When ever I watched a movie or when ever > it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry. > Now, where I have decided not to smoke means I have to face emotions. I > have to learn to deal with emotions in a different way than grab Mr. Smoke, > it is a totall new experience and a hard one too. Learn to cry again and > don’t feel ashamed because now there is no Mr. Smoke to hidde behind. Learn > to cry and accept it as being normal. > Carmen > quitting is hard, but to start smoking again is easy. literally > for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face…… > i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness) > but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running > down life…… > i > will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago…… > marianne > will remain smokefree > One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes > not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>for a few hours….. tears flowing down the face……
I must have cried most of this past weekend. >i do not feel the need for a smoke…… ( thank goodness)
Nor do I, thank the Goddess or God ) >but emotions are flowing through the head……. and tears are running down Yes….. >will now begin to deal with then ….. as i should have 30 years ago……
Yes, that’s part of what’s happening. You aren’t alone ) Cheryl Faith xxx 1M, 1W, 5D,20h – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->marianne >will remain smokefree >One month, three days, 1 hour, 54 minutes and 49 seconds. 1363 cigarettes >not smoked, saving $286.27. Life saved: 4 days, 17 hours, 35 minutes.
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>Yes it does. To hear you are going through this almost makes me feel better in >a sick kinda way. :-o I guess I haven’t *noticed* people here that sound like >they have gone through the emotional ups and downs I have.
I’m so grateful people share…… >When this happens – the crying stuff – I just put one foot in front >of the other and do whatever it is that is absolutely necessary for me to do.
Thanks, Kathleen, I always need this reminder….. >I have noticed that PMS time is the WORST.
There’s a small % of women who have murdered or commit suicide during this time. I fall into the % that just has suicidal thoughts but doesn’t mean them. >With hope and heart, >Kathleen, who never believed in PMS before
Believe it,Lady Kathleen. ) I have a weekend emotional hangover and so much guilt for so much crying when all this man wants to do is make me happy. But this too shall pass. xxxxCheryl Faith, meowing and not smoking
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> it came to feelings even happy feelings I would light up a smoke, well it > felt cool and I felt being above things, crying was for little girls . So I > didn’t have to cry because Mr. Smoke comforted right? I am not a little girl > lets smoke and not cry.
It’s so true how we do that. Cigarettes as punctuation for life. I’m beginning to see it’s much better to live life and feel it, too. Kim